The Relationally Intelligent Child • John Trent, PhD & Dewey Wilson, PhD

Five Keys to Helping Your Kids Connect Well with Others

April 2021 • Paperback • 978-0-8024-1638-4

Get the guidance you need to help your child—and help yourself!—experience full, lasting relationships.

Most parents today understand brokenness and loneliness when it comes to relationships. Then comes the need to teach relationship skills to their children! Having experienced isolation and loneliness on their own, parents can be terribly aware of how much their own children need and long for relationships.

The Relationally-Intelligent Child teaches parents the crucial insights of a must grasp concept: relational intelligence. This tool for growth and connection will not only change a child’s life, but also a parent’s own relationships. You’ll discover five key elements that can engage and equip your child with skills for being relationally intelligent with family, friends, and others.

This book also includes a special online version of the Connect Assessment® to help parents understand their children’s relational strengths. You’ll find a hands-on application plan, as well as links to powerful podcasts, videos, and resources. Your child was created for connection and designed for loving relationships. Get the help you need to guide them to develop the skills they need to do so.


John Trent, Ph.D., is President and Founder of, a ministry committed to building strong relationships in these stressful times. Dr. Trent’s main focus includes writing and speaking at retreats, conferences, business settings, churches, and seminars across the country. In addition to building family teams, Dr. Trent regularly speaks to corporate America on teambuilding, recruiting and retaining outstanding employees. He has authored and co-authored more than a dozen books for both adults and children, including Love For All Seasons, The Language of Love, and The Blessing. In addition to writing books, Dr. Trent has written numerous articles for both professional and popular publications. He and his wife, Cynthia, live in Scottsdale, Arizona and have two grown daughters.

Dewey Wilson, Ph.D. is founder and CEO of Strong Marriages. He has contributed to Focus on the Family’s book, The Best Advice on Parenting, with Jim Daly and has written books and workbooks for Strong Marriages, including Devoted and Doing Life Together.


As cultures across the globe continue to migrate further and further away from face-to-face friendships, love, and connection, we believe you can give your child an incredible gift. Current research shows no one else on the planet is better equipped to give this gift to your child than you. This gift can teach and coach your children to live out the skills needed to have positive, healthy, others-centered, world-changing, face-to-face relationships with others.

It’s not a life free from challenges, stress, or trials. But it provides your children with the strength and wisdom to get up on their own after falling down and gives them a foundation for love, connection, resilience, and care. In addition, your home can be a place that is a light to your children’s friends, who long to know what healthy relationships look like. Even after your children are grown and no longer living under your roof, they’ll look for ways to stay attached and spend time with you. Simply stated:

We believe you can teach your children to become relationally intelligent in a way that changes not only their life – but others’ lives as well!

It’s long been thought that you can’t define love with any type of certainty. For example, a 2016 article listed “36 Definitions of Love” found in the Urban Dictionary, from its being an emotion, to a decision, to simply being “undefinable”! But an avalanche of new clinical studies and even timeless biblical truths say otherwise. We believe it’s possible for you to show your children how deeply they are loved through your everyday actions. And, as they see you demonstrate this amazing love relationally, you’re giving them a model of how to highly value themselves and love others compassionately.

You might be wondering why we seem to be so confident. Like the noted futurists John Naisbitt and Patricia Aburdene wrote, we also believe, “The most exciting breakthroughs of the 21st century will not occur because of technology, but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human.”

And wave after wave of studies today are showing just how to be fully, wonderfully, healthily human is to be relational! It is how we are created.

It’s about being able to identify and value your own strengths and helping your children understand their strengths as well. It’s about understanding ways to genuinely value and connect with others. It’s being able to model and coach your children how to take positive risks that go with exploring their world, while also exploring what others could be thinking and feeling. Then, it’s working together with your children, helping them to become more creative and resilient. It’s also helping them to be linked to something greater than themselves, motivating and empowering them to go change their world for the better.

Basically, there really are applicational, relational blocks we can lay down in our child’s life that are essential for building a genuine love.